There are way too many unhealthy and toxic relationships that exist in the world; some situations where women have awareness of the abusive issue and other times they are completely blinded and ignorant to the fact that they belong to a abusive relationship. I spent quite a long period of time being in a toxic relationship with my ex boyfriend. It slowly escalated from controlling to verbally and emotionally abusive and then took a sharp turn to physically abusive. I began losing friends as he alienated me from any social life, lost my job, my family’s respect and most of all lost who i was. I became so warped and worried about pleasing him that i forgot how to make myself happy. For me the abuse was so mind controlling and frightening, that it was easier to stay then to leave it. After numerous incidents I finally had the courage to leave and free myself; to at last give myself the love and respect i deserved instead of remaining the victim and enduring years of suffering. The more i learnt about domestic violence, the more it resembled the victim as being the addict and the abuser being the drug. He was my drug; and he still is my drug, I just have to decide for myself what it is i really want inside of following my heart. More women need to be educated on the dynamics of abusive relationships. To love and respect yourself, as well as others will be key to manifesting healthy, positive relationships. Develop a strong relationship with yourself before entering into one with someone else, because if you don’t have your best priorities and interests in place first it will make it extremely hard to create a solid healthy ground for a relationship.