They need us.
Before they grow into men, our sons (brothers, cousins, nephews) need our help, understanding and compassion.
We can all help small boys and young men handle their anger and pain by letting them talk about it. Be there for them. Listen to them. Let them speak, even if you don’t like what you’re hearing. LET them speak. And then give them a great big (nearly) bone crushing hug and tell them you love them with all your heart. They need love and understanding just as much as you and I…maybe even more.
We can help direct their pain and anger into more constructive, creative pathways: art, music, writing, sculpting, horticulture, wood working, home repairs, auto repair, volunteering at local animal shelters, park districts or even nursing homes.
The constructive and positive possibilities are almost endless and much better than giving them video games that encourage them to use weapons to make them feel better and help alleviate their anger or pain. This is counter-productive as it will only re-enforce their desire to lash out and hurt others. This method of attempted anger-management is failing our youth as is evident in the amount of abuse and gun violence in this world.