I would like to strike a blow (non-violently of course) at domestic violence and especially the stalking and harassment often associated with it. This frequently happens when the woman leaves a relationship. I understand that the perpetrators (mostly men) are themselves marked at young ages with emotional, psychological and other injuries which predispose them to perpetuate abuse. The physical, psychological, emotional, economic and other damage these men can visit on women — unspeakable, and frequently unbelievable in degree of losses for so many women and those close to them. The shame and embarrassment of having a former husband or boyfriend tracking, threatening, manipulating others against, and just generally wrecking lives in any and all ways is horrible to endure. The hubris of “ownership” long past the expiration date of any connection often convinces observers including professionals and other family members that there is still a connection. This is based on the tenacity and relentlessness of men involved – hundreds of texts, calls etc. on a daily basis for weeks, months, and recurring for years. The statistics involved are staggering, and the degree to which control issues of blackmail, extortion etc. silence women involved is heartbreaking. These women have to fight, run, hide, and work a legal system which is long, slow, and often ineffective in helping womrn reclaim ownership of their lives. A normal life is made impossible by the everpresent threat that never seems to cease.